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I recently finished a book called "We're Still Her

I recently finished a book called "We're Still Here" by Jennifer M. Silva, which explores attitudes towards politics of residents of a very small, very poor town in Pennsylvania. I was surprised by several things. For one, a shocking amount of people preferred Bernie Sanders and his ideas, but thought he couldn't be effective, so they dismissed him. Also, a shocking amount of women were incredibly sexist and thought all women were unreliable and conniving, and therefore unable to lead. But the biggest shock was that regardless of their preferences and ideas, MOST people simply didn't want to vote. ⁣⁣
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There is a lot of compassion in "We're Still Here," and I feel it too. Most people who choose not to vote are those who feel that life has beaten them up no matter what they did or who was in charge, and thus they believe that it truly doesn't matter who's president. But listen. If that's you, I hear you. And I implore you to vote, and not because it's going to guarantee an outcome. It's not. But do it because it's one of those little actions that restores you to yourself. Voting is an act of personal dignity, an action you owe yourself and those you love. It's a way of standing a little more proudly in the world, and stubbornly saying "I matter and my family matters." It's an exercise, a rep in a civic workout, a duty and a discipline and the right thing to do. Disenchantment serves no one. Put it aside and do the work of standing up for yourself at the polls. It's one step you MUST do to serve a bigger purpose in your life.⁣⁣
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The U.S. presidential election is just 10 days away. Are you planning to vote? Do you know where and how? If you haven't voted already, check out vote.org or your local government's website to make sure you have a plan. Also explore the #riseupshowupunite hashtag for some really cool election art!⁣⁣
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And yes, I've already voted by dropping off an absentee ballot 😊 In VA, we also voted on constitutional amendments: one about limiting gerrymandering and another about expanding injured veterans' benefits.⁣⁣
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#riseupshowupvote #vote2020 #votevotevote #democracyinaction #democracyatwork #voter #votetoday

Hello again. Have you been pushing? Forcing, press

Hello again. Have you been pushing? Forcing, pressing squeezing? Banging your head against a wall, a head full of ideas that can't seem to hook on to reality? I feel you. I've felt that a lot throughout my life. And it's a terrible, seductive compulsion. It's such a lie though. Looking at my life so far, I must admit that the only things that worked out well were those in which I felt a sense of flowing ease, a door wide open. In contrast, everything I tried to force into existence failed... and not just failed but truly hurt me along the way. I wish this awareness protected me from getting caught up in the push ever again, but it's only human to forget our best lessons. Especially this one, as our culture floods us with "hustle" and "hard work" lies of the privileged. But hey, I'm learning to catch my own bs. There's a difference between admirable strength and idiotic forcing. A sense of ease does not mean anything other than that you're looking at an appropriate level of fit between you in a particular moment and the situation at hand. There's no need to push. Just go where the door is open and see what's there.

Looking for art that may help you reflect on the c

Looking for art that may help you reflect on the current state of our society? Consider the short story "Trouble With The Angels" by Langston Hughes. 📕 At first read, it seems to be a call to individual heroics in the face of injustice, or maybe a condemnation of people who maintain the status quo for various reasons (fear, comfort). Yet its message is a commentary on the way change happens in societies. A single hero CANNOT create change, despite the narratives Americans are taught in schools and media. We can only get better together, as a collective unit. A mass of people taking a small step at the same time. So let's tip our hats to Langston and stay the heck inside and wash our hands and protect the vulnerable because while a lone hero is pretty useless in a pandemic, a huge wave of us acting together is what the world needs.

A tool to help your brain in difficult times: ask

A tool to help your brain in difficult times: ask yourself if a thought you're having is actually helping you. Just that simple question can spark change in your mind. And you might be surprised once you notice how many thoughts you think don't actually bring any value to your life, or maybe even actively hurt you. Does the thought you're thinking help you take desired action? Help you treat others well? Pursue your preferred outcomes? And if not, what thoughts would actually help if you were thinking them?

Something to chew on: if you're losing sleep over

Something to chew on: if you're losing sleep over it, you're overinvested. This tossing and turning is your mind telling you that you care too much and you've gone too far. Find ways to step back and not be so enamored with the outcome. ◻️ That has happened to me twice in the last week. Once over a client project, and once because of a housing opportunity. I was literally too excited to sleep, and then once obstacles naturally came up in both instances, I felt like a truck hit me. Those reactions were wayyyy too strong, and I should have paid better attention. Once my mind ramped up so much that I was only thinking about one thing, I should have seen it as a sign to take it down a notch immediately. I should have focused on why those opportunities and projects aren't THAT great, and what could be wonderful about not having them in my life. And I don't mean this in a pessimistic way. Not at all. What I mean has a lot to do with our ability to use our experiences as a tool, and being responsible for our tools. Excitement, commitment, investment, those are all tools that can be helpful. But every tool could be used to cause harm, and so if you find that your excitement is keeping you up at night, you're overinvested. Back up, rest, and work on a broader perspective. It all doesn't matter as much as you might feel it does.

⁣Pardon me the awkward wording, but I think you

⁣Pardon me the awkward wording, but I think you get the point. Let's reflect! What was added and subtracted from your life, and what effect did that have? What would you like to be added to removed?
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I'd like the add the confidence to deeply believe that I'm allowed to work for money in a way that won't stress me out or make my day to day worse. That it's possible. And then, you know, actually add a stress-free workflow.
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And I'd like to remove paper clutter! I've been stuck on trying to get rid of it for so long but it's still everywhere. That would be the greatest gift to myself--to finally finish it all and remove this paper from sight.
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#lucubrators_review

If you're like me and tend to start too many thing

If you're like me and tend to start too many things at once, using tabs in your planner for when you start a new effort could help you visually remind yourself to focus on one thing at a time and space out your projects. There's all the time in the world for the things you want to do and learn and accomplish. Take it one step at a time. (And yes this is me trying not to rush on to something new before meal prepping becomes a very solid part of my routine 😂) 📔

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⁣I've known for years that meal planning is a re

⁣I've known for years that meal planning is a really smart thing to do, but it wasn't until I had a baby that I got desperate enough for it to become intuitive. Or maybe I got smarter about building new habits?
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I remember a friend who meal plans saying that she can't imagine living without it anymore, and feeling that I want to be just like her. I followed all these #mealplanning accounts for inspiration. I wanted SO BADLY to be the kind of person who could be extremely efficient about food, to stop wasting time on cooking and shopping and choosing. But I think that before now, I never had a truly good reason to commit to it, and so I'd start in earnest and fail to follow through. I'd cook new meals from scratch, always run out of things I needed, waste food, and find myself too exhausted to eat proper meals.
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I always struggled to eat regularly. Stress would get to me so much, and I'd go through long periods without anything to eat. I think my metabolism just shut down at some point. And I clobbered on, burning out and suffering, until we had our baby and I started breastfeeding. This period really made me realize how desperately I needed to change, and how desperately I needed to eat more every day. It is no longer an option to waste any time or to tolerate being malnourished.
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My desperation made me act. I finally got those damn containers. I remembered how much I loved @budgetbytes and @themealprepmanual. One #PrimeNow order and an hour of prep later, I had eleven meals neatly stacked. I'm still a beginner here, but firmly on the path, and thrilled to be learning a new skill. ⠀ ⠀
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There's are good times and bad times to plan your

There's are good times and bad times to plan your to-dos. An example of a good time would be when you're full of energy and feeling optimistic. Whatever you write down in your plans then gets connected in your mind to feeling good. And when the time comes to actually take action, it will all feel a little better and reinforce your motivation.

A bad time to plan would be when you're drained and exhausted. Similar to the example above, you'd be associating that negative state of mind with your future plans and setting off a spiral of dread. You'll be exhausted simply at the thought of taking action. In addition, the types of to-dos you'd come up with when tired won't be of the best quality because your reasoning takes a hit AND your plans would be born out of a more pessimistic view of the future. And you don't want to take action framed by pessimism.

You may protest. "But I'm always tired!" I feel that way. First, have hope that this is an overstatement. Second, if this is truly the case, let go of putting extra pressure on yourself via to-do lists. That's probably not the tool you need in your life right now. Seriously, stop trying to control tiredness out of your life. Just get by the best you can without overplanning so that your mind can relax a bit and feel energy coming back. Energize yourself by trusting your impulses and flowing with what is immediately in front of you. No plans. No whipping yourself. And once you're in a better place, plan again, with optimism and joy.

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⁣This is my immediate start to practicing emptiness more intentionally (see previous post on the purpose of creating empty spaces in life). I haven't made new worksheets or planners here for quite a while, though I've come up with plenty of ideas. Pregnancy and postpartum had wiped me out a little too much to finish anything that I started. So for now, I'm going to practice taking things away and creating emptiness in the parts of life I struggle with, which in this case means taking away steps I usually require of myself before posting a worksheet. I'm taking out my research and sketching out ideas, and layout design and uploads and emails and all that jazz. At least for a little bit. And posting just the core of an idea--a so called "worksheet" in the form of my prompts on a Post-It.
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This one is about another form of taking something away. It's taking away the need to take new photos every time you want to write a post on Instagram. Basically, I'd like to build out some stock photos for myself, so whenever I want to write to you guys I can just grab one and go. And this is a very loose guide for the process of generating a set of such stock photos. Hopefully it can help your Instagramming as well. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀
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1⃣ Come up with and write down ten topics/keywords that describe your Instagram.
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A designed and downloadable version of this WILL be available sometime. But right now I'm taking it away to get myself filled up with fresh energy and it feels damn good.

⁣A theme I've noticed in my productivity lately:

⁣A theme I've noticed in my productivity lately: the things I have almost infinite energy for these days all take something away from my life. In a good way. They create emptiness, a sense of space. I'm cleaning things out, getting through nagging todos pestering my mind, giving away belongings, doing stuff to use up all my supplies, organizing belongings and information. I have this deep need to pursue emptiness in all areas of life, to seek efficiency and minimalism in every nook and cranny. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀
And, in contrast, the things I struggle to do are all generative. That is, they are things that would add something into my life instead of taking something away. I'm not creating much, not buying much, not adding people or ideas or experiences. Even thinking about doing something generative stresses me out.
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I think I understand why this is happening. When you seek to take things away, it's not to reach some sort of static emptiness in life. It's to create vacuums. Which, as vacuums do, suck in new things to fill themselves back up. Creating emptiness is a force by which fresh newness is sucked into your life, it's a method of refreshing energy. Kind of like airing out your home after a stuffy winter. Emptiness is dynamic and full of happy anticipation--now that there's this space, what will come into your life to fill it?
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It's the same kind of joy as you'd find in minimalism and the "doing less" movements. What drives the joy in those kinds of mindsets is not reaching some point where you have nothing and do nothing. I think that would drive a human being crazy. Instead, it's to create as much empty space in life as possible so that things can rush in, and sweep you up, and take you on a new adventure.
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I have a daughter. Oh my goodness, a DAUGHTER. It

I have a daughter. Oh my goodness, a DAUGHTER. It has been a wild journey, and the learning curve is intense, but each week, little by little, I've been returning to myself. I haven't been myself in a year, as my pregnancy was unexpectedly debilitating, but now there are once more glimpses of who I used to be. 🎠

So far being a mother is an awakening, a boost of transformative energy that brings me closer to myself and also pushes me farther than I've ever thought I could go. And our cute baby girl is amazing. We're incredibly lucky. 🎠

I've had reason to think a lot about the financial stress of parenthood. How it breaks people. It's one of the deep fears that visits in the dark of the night and sucks out all hope for a while. Financial stress in general can feel like that, and parenthood gives it an explosive urgency. There's so much you just NEED, right this second, for your baby, for yourself in a new role, for your partner, for your home. At least that's how it feels for me as I stand over the sink washing endless baby bottles and anxiously running through to-do lists in my mind. And then I do my mental budgeting and despair over how there's no way we can afford it all. 🎠

Yet I believe in CREATING meaning as opposed to finding it externally prepackaged, ready-made. And the other day it struck me--I have the power to make all of this meaningful. What if I can learn to read my financial stress differently? What if, when I think of buying some object, the presence of stress is a signal of some sort? 🎠

Our society tends to push a narrative where if you can't afford something, the signal is to work harder to make more money and buy it. It's the song of capitalism. But I don't have to sing it. I'm too tired. 🎠

So now I have a practice--when I think about buying something, and I'm stressed in response, the signal is to let go and problem-solve without that thing. As in, I immediately decide to not buy something if stress is present. And if I DON'T feel stressed about a purchase, then it's a green flag signal to go ahead and buy it. This is a way to honor my stress, which is a meaningful life guide, not a whip. 🎠

How can you honor your stress?

As I continue the journey through one of the more

As I continue the journey through one of the more physically and mentally taxing periods of my life (pregnancy is HARD on me, oy) I keep finding myself pulling out every bit of spiritual know-how I've collected over the years. And there's one belief, one crumb of relief that keeps popping up and helping me out--the idea of letting go of control and surrendering to the unknown.⁣ Admitting that I can never actually know for sure what the future will be like.
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I must admit, practicing this is terrifying for me. I grew up firmly believing that thinking things through and control and prediction is not only the path to a better life, but a sort of moral high ground. That it's irresponsible to be otherwise. That me letting go will hurt others. That only simpletons live life without a plan and just shrug their shoulders when thinking about the future. That others will only respect me if I'm very, very sure. And, of course, I practiced thinking THOSE toxic thoughts right into deep, deep burnout. ⁣
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These days I'm a little bit wiser and better able to distinguish between responsibility and control. And when my old friends anxiety and tension and fear creep in, I remind myself of a simple truth: I have NO IDEA what will happen next. I have my guesses, yes, but they're just that. Life is impermanent, unpredictable, wild. Life is so much bigger than me. And it's deep hubris to think I can know what's coming up. My guesses aren't that good or important or helpful. ⁣
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Whipping out this new set of beliefs has helped me so much. No matter how shitty I feel I can always remind myself that I have no idea what the rest of the day will be like. No matter how much today sucks I have no idea what tomorrow will be like. No matter how terrifying a choice seems I have no idea what will actually come out of it. And when I remember this, things feel a tad lighter, and hope returns.⁣
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#affirmations #positivelife #positiveaffirmations #anxietyrecovery #anxiety #32weekspregnant #liveonpurpose #creativehappylife #womensupportingwomen #mindfulmovement #mindfulness #hope #selfimprovement #surrender

"I have found that the key to not being blocked is

"I have found that the key to not being blocked is to not worry about it. Ever. If you are sitting down and you feel that you want to write and nothing is coming, you get up and do something else. Then you come back again and try it again. But you do it in a relaxed manner. TRUST that it will be there. If it ever was once and you've ever done it once, it will be back." -- Carole King 🌸

#quote #quotestoliveby #caroleking #writing #amwriting #orange #manicure #nailart #theartistsway #writersblock #creativity #motivation #writingtips #writingmood #writingofig #madewords

It's the end of June and the end of #PTSDawareness

It's the end of June and the end of #PTSDawarenessmonth. So here's a little cheers from me to you to seek help when you need it and to help people around you seek help.⁣
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I have never officially been diagnosed with PTSD but as time goes on, more and more people in my life realize they have either #ptsd or #cptsd. It's an enormous kind of strength to face diagnosis and begin recovering, and all of us are surrounded on the daily by people doing just that. It's wonderful.⁣
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So, what is PTSD? The acronym stands for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Essentially, it's disordered functioning as a result of trauma. Symptoms can include extreme avoidance of triggering events and stimuli, nightmares, hypervigilence, emotional numbness, angry outbursts, and a fundamental shift in seeing the world as more dangerous. When you see a "c" in front of PTSD, it denotes "complex PTSD", which basically means that the disorder is caused by lots of smaller traumas instead of one big one. ⁣
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7.7 million adults are affected in the US in any given year. Women are twice as likely to develop PTSD as men. 67 percent of people exposed to mass violence have been shown to develop PTSD, a higher rate than those exposed to natural disasters or other types of traumatic events.⁣
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http://www.ptsdunited.org/ptsd-statistics-2/⁣
https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/posttraumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd

I'm with Camus on this one 🤷 #millenialmoney #

I'm with Camus on this one 🤷

#millenialmoney #womensupportingwomen #womenwhosupportwomen #theimperfectboss #womenwithaplan #buildalifeyoulove #camus #albertcamus #authorquotes #quote #quotesaboutlife #foodforthought

What can you expect from working with a therapist?

What can you expect from working with a therapist?⁣
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After burning out thoroughly and falling apart in colorful ways, I had decided to try therapy about a year ago. I chose a virtual provider (heyya @talkspace), and to this day I love the convenience of being able to get help on a flexible schedule, in flexible formats, and from whatever environment is best for me. I wouldn't have been able to get to an office at the worst of my burnout, so I'm super grateful for help via apps in my pocket!⁣
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My first therapist wasn't a good match, and it took me a while to see it. She tried to force solutions and overly fixated on childhood trauma. I could see that the relationship wasn't helping and got stuck blaming myself. What if I wasn't trying hard enough in therapy?⁣
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Six months ago I finally worked up the courage to break up that relationship and was assigned a new therapist, who has been SO GOOD from day one. She practices Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), which fits well with my cognition, and was able to immediately identify burnout as what was happening to me. Brick by brick, I've been feeling myself change in her care.⁣
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- Feedback loops that reinforce good things you're thinking/doing & correct unhelpful ones⁣
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- Professional familiarity w/ your specific mental health issue⁣
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If you're in a good therapy relationship, can you add to this?

It's my 100th post on this account! Woot!⁣
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So, to mark the occasion, here's a short and sweet reminder. The value of the planning process is the PROCESS itself. Just the get-shit-out-of-my-head-and-organized-on-paper bit. ⁣
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It's not about actual completion of all your plans. Life happens, things get thrown into the proverbial blender, and you probably won't do all you planned to do in the method or timeframe in which you hoped to do it. This doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Actually, it's probably a great sign that you're able to stay present in your life and respond to change, instead of being stuck on planned theories that end up not matching reality. Let go of the idea that there is value in perfectly checked off to-do lists.⁣
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If you go through the process of making a plan, and then don't do any of the things on it, go set your plan on fire and make a new one. Because you already did the important thing, you sat down with your thoughts, and that's where the magic lives, in the helpful connections happening in your mind while you plan. ⁣
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I'm making much faster progress through the nine books I wanted to intentionally read this year, and it's quite a pleasure to find myself working through Dreams from My Father. Did you know Obama wrote it in 1994, way before any thoughts of presidency? For some reason I thought it was one of those election fodder books. But no, he's just the type to be asked to write an autobiography in his early 30s. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's great, and intense, and every bit of my soul relates to the ways an unusual childhood shapes you. How your parents shape you. How international experience shapes you. Young Obama was just as torn and conflicted and angry as I often feel. And it's such a relief to read about--he felt this way and look where he ended up! (I'll be ok, I guess.) ⠀ ⠀
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Which makes me wonder--perhaps all forms of existential struggle are simply signs of a maturing mind, and not something to run away from, or something to solve. Maybe we don't need answers, maybe we just need to let the questions transform us, and to hold on for dear life through the ride. And build and build and build on our values. ⠀ ⠀
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In the slideshow: my nine reading goals for the year, progress so far, and the latest reads. ❇⠀ ⠀

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Empowered Boundaries by Cristien Storm may just be

Empowered Boundaries by Cristien Storm may just be the most important book I've read so far this year. It's just... 🤯, page after page. ▫

Some beloved takeaways: your personal boundaries are what influences social change around you. Boundaries are as much about what you DO want as what you don't want. Just because someone is hurt by your boundary doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. Boundaries don't need to be agreed with on all sides to be valid. When something bad happens to you, don't be so fast to blame yourself for not "doing boundaries right" (let's back way the fuck down from our tendency to victim blame). ▫

Inspired by the book, I created a worksheet to help people gain better awareness of how boundaries play out in typical upsetting situations they encounter. Personally, the hardest part of tracking this kind of stuff so far has been naming my own boundaries and articulating exactly what it is that feels violated. It's powerful work. ▫

Download your copy via the link in my bio. And grab a reading tracker while you're there! And sign up to get email notifications about new worksheets! Gogogo. ▫

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